moms, please.

can we make a deal, friends? when i am postpartum and feeling like my body is still no longer my own, please for the love of all things right in the world, do not offer me whatever it is you are selling. i love you, but you’re so missing the point. i saw a sweet and incredibly gorgeous mama recently, post about overcoming shame and the struggles that come with the amazing ways your body changes during and after pregnancy. and i’ll be darned that the FIRST COMMENT wasn’t about plexus. this comment-er even mentioned parts of the body that this woman needed help with. WHAT???? and many others followed–peppered in the long list of encouragement to this mama. but no–there’s just no reason for this. just don’t. you’re being gross.

while we are making deals–what the heck is up with mom’s anyway? i mean, as mentioned previously–EVERYBODY has an opinion. (note – it’s most hilarious when someone without kids has given me tips, or advice or an explanation as to why i’m experiencing a particular pregnancy symptom…or OH MY WORD the reasons why we conceived a girl). you name it. breastfeeding, where and when to do it, not to mention how long. vaccines. organic food. your choice of birthing rituals. which—just what. i know i’m still on the other side—we can say what we will, but i’m pretty convinced this little girlie is going to very much decide on her own when she will make her appearance. sure, we can plan and prepare for a specific scenario, but the fact is; we just don’t know what will happen. we’ve never ever done this before, and my birthing journey will be unique to me. we are researching and taking classes wherever we can, so that we can be the most prepared to make a decision when something causes us to deviate from our, ‘plan.’

but there are some strong opinions. wowsers. and so many decisions to work through. we are over halfway done at this point, but we’ve had pediatrician meet and greets, birthing classes (and oh, so many more to come!), infant cpr, a hospital tour, day care interviews (awkward), and many other appointments. not to mention, we’ve already contracted with our blood cord bank, and i’m preregistered at the hospital for a time somewhere around my due date. and there’s just so much more to do!! like figure out where this babe will sleep! install the carseat! launder—EVERYTHING!

i applaud any mama for just making it to the end of pregnancy. this is no joke! solidarity mamas. right?? we are all in this together. we can not do this alone and we need each other to speak life and encouragement into one another in a way that only we can.

whew!! go mamas!! you’re all amazing!

five names that we did not pick for our child

we decided to keep our baby’s name under wraps until she makes her debut in january. here are five names you can cross off your guessing game list. (i know you have one!!)

1. hyacinth. nope. we are not naming her hyacinth. i love the idea of flower names (we have a ‘lily’ and an ‘iris’ in the fam—so awesome). this particular flower name may have been inspired by comedic genuis of patricia routledge on one of the best old skool british comedies, keeping up appearances. i love her. i just do. alas.

2. dumbledore. as much as it would benefit our unborn child to be named after the greatest wizard of all time, i had to nix this. this is a real live suggestion made by one of my nieces—who, by the way, i’m pretty sure has not seen or read harry potter, nor has she ventured to his magical land of witchcraft and wizardry to dine on chocolate frogs and pumpkin juice while choosing a wand. (nay! the wand chooses you.) but then again, she’s five, which means she’s way more awesome-er a knowing about things than i am. (fun fact: spell check recognizes “dumbledore.”)

3.  apple. or any other inanimate-like object. nothing too crazy, but i mention apple here because green apples are one of the few things baby r actually likes. i think she may come out green. or tart. ha ha ha.

4. no names from lord of the rings/star wars/star trek/game of thrones, etc. much to my husband’s disappointment, and probably others as well, she will not be named leia, or…okay i can’t even pretend to try to know these names.  i don’t even know if that’s how you spell, ‘leia.’ laiah? leyah? liasdjq4394? ugh. i get that this works for so many people, but i am not one of them. sowwie. (not sowwie.)

5. creedence, ajax, blip, cheese, zamboni , hurricane, felony or flame these were listed as some of the worst names given to babies in 2013, so we tried to take note and avoid these names that actually belong to boys and girls around the world. really?? real talk tho—my other niece suggested ‘blip’  multiple times, along with ‘blip blop’ and some other noises that i don’t know how to phonetically communicate.

 

well. what do you think we will name her?

thanks for reading!

we’re having a BABY!

wow, it’s been forever since i have updated! it’s mostly because shortly thereafter my last post, we found out we were PREGNANT! many of the lovely symptoms you hear about had already set in, so i quickly became MIA from just about everything for the first 15 weeks. wow. pregnancy is no joke!

for fun, i have decided to compile a list of questions and thoughts i have on the subject. but first, a picture of us with our gender reveal cake! IT’S A PINK!

cake picphoto courtesy of the fabulous http://www.janagross.com!

1. as mentioned. PREGNANCY IS NO JOKE. i don’t think i’ve ever experienced anything more refining. and i don’t think most days i’m winning at this refining me for the better. others assure me the blissful mommy feelings will come, and that all the barfing shall pass, but it can wear on a girl! i mean we’ve been doing all the ‘right things.’ regular chiropractic care, solid nutrition, staying active, pregnancy massage (lurrrv), awesome awesome awesome prenatal care– but i’ve been sick a LOT and the baby hates almost every food and drink in existence. i have a deepened respect for anyone who has been with child. you are all awesome, and SOLIDARITY, ok?

2. how am i supposed to pack a snoogle, 2 king sized pillows and a body pillow in my luggage when we go on our babymoon? this struggle is for real. the pillow fort i’ve built is FOR REAL. every week it becomes a more and more necessary to my survival in this adventure of growing a tiny human. my sister just suggested that i ask for ‘a few extra pillows’ upon our arrival, so here’s hoping they will give me at least ten.

3. just don’t tell anyone your baby name ideas ever. we learned this pretty much right off the bat. if there’s a name you even remotely cherish or love–even if it’s not a sure thing, someone will inevitably have an ex-girlfriend or some other treacherous figure from their past that is just like the worst ever. and then you must endure story after story of the wrongdoings of this person you obviously want to name your child after.

4. every pregnancy is different. it’s so funny how before you have kids, you have all these preconceptions about pregnancy. ev.er.y.one. has old wives tales for you, predictions and facts opinions about what you are or are not having, and what you should or should not be doing. i think this is where the first feelings of just needing to trust your own judgement and gut come in. we’ve had some very wise and godly counsel. and we are big fans of practicing common sense. we communicate often and approach things with prayer, so that we are proactive and informed in the choices we are making. enough said.

5. it’s a GIRL. those are three words that changed my whole entire world. i am not one of those people that magically had a sense either way of the gender, but i just hadn’t thought of our baby being a girl! we had a boy name picked out. both of my sisters are having boys this year–it just made sense! when the tech told us it was a girl, it was the first time in this entire pregnancy that i’ve burst into uncontrollable tears. (baby r makes me mean, not teary.) and it wasn’t a bad cry at all—it took the whole afternoon to come to grips with, but dang i am EXCITED! something also happened in my brain upon obtaining this knowledge, where suddenly i was desperate to find pink things. pink clothes, pink blankets, pink crib sheets. i did NOT see that coming, because you know, i’m, ‘miss let’s stay gender neutral so we can use all this stuff for multiple kids.’ see? practical.

well this is all the wisdom and advice i have so far. holy moly, etsy.com–do you have some CUTE baby girl stuff. i’ll have to post about this very soon, plus some of the awesome finds i’ve made on zulily.

thanks for reading! love, daniel, emily and baby GIRL (ahhhhhhhhhh!)

pregnancy through the eyes of a 4 year old

(one of) my sister(s) is pregnant, and my niece has the most hilarious things to say about this. and it needs to be documented. you’re welcome, world.

there has been a lot of talk about the baby getting bigger each week. and of course with the baby growing, consequently ‘mommy’ is growing too. she explained, “it’s kind of like santa.” i almost spewed my water all over the table, but i held it together because i wanted to find out more. i asked her if she thought mommy might be eating a lot of cookies, like santa, but she found this to be a ridiculous and absurd suggestion.

“salads,” she said. still offended at my comments. she then proceeded to tell me about all the types of salads she has been making.

 

i assumed at this point, that they were pretend salads. but further confirmation from my weirdo sibling later on, lead me to conclude that some of these are actually REAL. but whatevs. we bryant’s have always been fans of crazy food combinations. queso and oreos…ranch with, well, everything. vodka and pickles. the list goes on…

 

so the salads in question were things like grapes and carrots. cheese, tomatoes and mustard. lettuce and pickles. grapes and pickles. grapes and broccoli. grapes and mustard. (i sense a grape-like pattern here.)

anyway, this will not be the last that i report on this matter. but you can bet i am not going over there for dinner anytime soon, just in case it’s salad night.

mettling

There’s a group of six of us who get together on a semi-regular basis to pow-wow about the world. It helps that I’m related to two of them. I also work with one of them, was roommates with another, and shared office space with the other. We all have different stories and backgrounds. Some of us work in publishing (yet contribute to this market in very different ways), one works in a corporate office, one is a stay at home mom, and one works for an incredibly amazing theater project. It’s just fun to talk about life with these women.

Last week we got together at an incredible new East Austin Eatery called Mettle.

We tried a little bit of everything. I recommend trying the Salmon Crudo and Beets for sure. The miso aioli that comes with the fries, is also not to miss.

 

Thanks for reading!

 

the domain

we took a big risk last thanksgiving and put our house on the market, and it turned out to be one of the best decisions we have ever made! 

we had been wanting to move/make a change for awhile, and the timing was absolutely perfect. 

it was no joke downsizing from a 4/3, 2 story house, to a 1.5/1 apartment. holy moly. but we LOVE our new place and live next door to work, the movies, whole foods, and many other amazing amenities. it’s a wonderful season that we are very grateful for.

here are a few pictures of the new place!

 

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friday five

1. what was the first Internet site you remember joining?

i’m sure there were more before this, but i remember all the search engines. yahoo, alta vista, magellan, excite…omg do you remember ask jeeves? i remember the day he was gone…sigh. then there was icq and xanga…

 

2. what was the last Internet site you joined?

i tried to join lumosity but the i found out you had to pay. it’s this cool site that helps you exercise your brain!

 

3. are you mac,window or something else?

i feel like i’m probably more of a google. i’m so pro at google docs—i use lots of the apps. i also have a google tablet and big fans of chromecast.

 

4. what is the one thing you wish you could easily do with your computer?

well, i can’t talk to it. but the idea of that kind of creeps me out, so that’s not really an answer…

 

5. are you happier with the all the advances that have been made in the last ten years or do you wish for an earlier, less technology-based time?

we actually talk about this a lot in our household. sometimes it’s SO hard to tear yourself away from being connected, but sometimes it’s incredibly easy. i think i land on the side of happier with the advancements, though. it makes the world smaller, but i don’t think that’s always a bad thing. we must to practice responsibility with information.